Momfense: noun. An action or word that makes a mom feel offended or that she needs to go on the defensive.
The other day a friend and I were idly chatting. I think I had mentioned something about Husband's job or degree when she said, "But you have your degree, too, right?"
I told her that yes, I did. (I have a bachelor's in English).
"I never understood why someone would spend that much money on education just to stay home," she replied.
Whoa. Back up a second. What did she just say to me? What is that supposed to mean?
I stammered something about staying home wasn't my original plan (it wasn't) and I may go back to work when the kids are in school (may or may not).
What I wish I had said was I don't think education is a waste of money and I am doing what is best for me and my family. That's how I really feel.
What is so curious is why I felt I had to defend my position at all. I wasn't angry as much I was mildly offended by the remark. To me, it was as if she was telling me that I had done a foolish thing by going to college if my plan was to be a stay-at-home mother. Sorry. Even if that had been the plan, I wouldn't trade my Shakespeare and poetry classes for the world.